Sunday, January 25, 2009

Chocolate, Midnight, and Amish Ice Hockey

Well, I'm finally posting about the Marriage Conference . . . and now some of the details are a little foggy, so bear with me as I reminisce . . .

We got lost on our way up, to the tune of about an hour's extra travel time. Part of it was Google's fault, and part of it was human error. Adrian felt terrible about it . . . but we still arrived 1 1/2 hours before the first session started, with enough time to check in (free chocolate bars!) , get our stuff together, and grab dinner. ($9.00 panini sandwiches in the hotel's coffee shop; I wish I could say that that was the last time we ate there.)

The next day should have started with breakfast at Skyline Diner (20 minutes away), but we had a bit of an early-morning problem . . . so the next day started with breakfast at Friendly's (20 seconds away).

It was a great time, so I really couldn't have asked for more, and Adrian handled the last-minute change of his best-laid plans like a pro.

As a matter of fact, meals like this were probably my favorite part of the conference. Yes, the messages were amazing, and getting away for a weekend was great, but it was so wonderful to be able to hang out with all these couples without the constant interruption of children. After the last session on Saturday night, a bunch of us went to the hotel's sports bar and talked until midnight. I feel as if Adrian and I benefited as much from our interaction with all the wise, godly couples around us as we did from the messages.

On the way home, as we were remarking about how great it would be to live on a farm in the Pennsylvania countryside, we saw this:


Can you tell what's going on here? Let me give you another view:

Yes, this is a crowd of Amish boys skating on a frozen pond, a homey and quaint little scene. But look closer . . . these Amish people are playing hockey. They've set up goals, and they have pucks and sticks. It just made us want to live in the country more. *sigh*

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Varied Responses to a Historic Day

Yesterday, America's first African-American president was sworn into office. This represented an historic moment for people of all races, creeds, and nationalities, especially those who have been oppressed.

But you knew that already.

What you might not know is how those here in town reacted to this historic day. I spent a good portion of my day interacting with various people of all different *ahem* shall we say, opinions?

The day began at a local Episcopal school. I volunteered in the library, assisting the librarian with a special "Inauguration Day" schedule of activities. In between classes, she and another volunteer (a mother) began discussing the presidential election. Their conversation went something like this:

"I didn't think we could do it, but we really did!"
"I know; that moment when almost all the polls were in, and he was leading, didn't you just feel this great satisfaction. I mean, we did it! I just turned the tv off and went to bed, satisfied and happy."
"Oh yeah, when the last of the California polls reported and they announced the winner, I was like, 'Yes!'"

These two women seem to feel a kind of kinship with President Obama. They kept saying "we", as if they personally were responsible for the outcome of the election, as if they themselves had campaigned for him. And maybe they did; I don't know. I do know they were ecstatic. Slightly less ecstatic was a little girl who came in moments later, from a kindergarten class. She and her classmates were coloring pictures of Obama, and she began jamming her crayon down on his face as hard as she could, while muttering, "I hate him, I hate him, I hate him!" The librarian, who had not heard her diatribe, told her to "be careful with that crayon," so the girl put the crayon down and began using her fist, pounding our President's face as hard as she could, her little face contorted with rage.

Now, I don't know about you, but I didn't know what hate was when I was in kindergarten. I certainly didn't know this kind of hate, this blinding anger at someone I had never met. Dare I say that this kind of hate has to be "carefully taught" in order to exist in someone this young?

Then I went across town to a daycare that I used to work for and ran into the owner. When asked if his establishment was going to watch the inauguration, he said, "How?" (He had a good point; they don't get tv reception there.) He then said, "And why?" My jaw dropped as a thousand reasons why jostled in my head. "Because it's historic, because it's patriotic, because he's our President, for crying out loud . . ." Sadly, I was brave enough to say none of these. I merely smiled weakly as he continued, "I mean, I don't hate him; I just don't think he's our savior either." Well, neither do I. I have a Savior, and it's not President Obama. But I still found reasons to watch the inauguration of our first African-American President.

Whatever you think about our 44th President, his views, his skin color, his speeches, he is our President. God tells us to respect our leaders and our governments as long as they don't make us abandon our faith, and even then, He never tells us to hate them. I will be praying for you, little kindergarten girl, and for myself, that I would forgive and love my enemies the way Christ taught us to.

Happy Inauguration Day.

Thursday, January 15, 2009

Lots of Links

Congratulations to this wonderful family on the birth of their lovely baby girl! Emma is so beautiful!

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We're leaving for the Sovereign Grace Marriage Conference this afternoon. Hopefully, it'll be a restful, productive, learning experience as we take this "Sabbath" together.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

A Dangerous Admission

*The proceeding post is designed to be tongue-in-cheek. Please don't take any of it too seriously. I love my friends who love football, and I'm not in therapy for my childhood experiences of it.*

In the past weekend, my husband and our friends have watched 4 football games together. . . and I was there, my nose buried firmly in a book. Now, I will be the first to acknowledge that football parties are a great chance to build friendships and maybe even fellowship a little, but the whole actually watching the game part kind of bums me out. I always knew that I didn't like football; what I've realized recently is that I actively dislike it. I actually find it difficult to watch.

Now, I know that this is a dangerous admission in the Delmarva area. This is a region where half of our church's leadership team shows up on Sunday morning wearing Eagles' paraphernalia, where our pastor's benediction once was, "Go Eagles!", where high school football games take precedence over anything else on a Friday night, and where the advertisement for the local news station declares that "we" in Delmarva "have a passion for sports". More than once at the daycare, I've heard children (and adults) say incredulously, "You don't own a jersey?!?" "You don't know who won last night?!" "You don't even like football?!?". Hello, my name is Meredith, and I dislike football.

Of course, I have a perfectly legitimate excuse for being this way. I was raised in the DC Metro area as a Redskins fan. The Redskins were a decent team for the first 7 or 8 years of my life. Then they went downhill . . . fast. My dad still held to the old alliance, but I grew tired of hearing, "You like the Redskins? Don't you know they're terrible?!" Some of my friends have held fast to their allegiances under pressure like this (Go Orioles!), and I admire them for that, but I just couldn't do it. I just backed out of the whole football scene, resentfully, my true allegiance still lying with the Redskins and my heart slowly growing bitter at having to watch them lose again . . . and again . . . and again. By the time they made their comeback, (can we call it a comeback?), I was too far gone even to appreciate that.

Let it be known: I will watch other sports with the best of 'em. I love going to baseball games, I adore televised soccer, and I am enamored with the Olympics. But I can't watch football. Sorry, Delmarva.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

words of peace and comfort

When one takes a leap of faith in a certain direction and doesn't see the bridge, or even a parachute yet, it's easy to regret every leap one has ever taken, especially if one finds oneself with a large amount of free time in which to think and worry.

So here I am, being haunted by the ghosts of jobs past: jobs that I was offered but turned down for one reason or another, jobs that could have led me where I want to be, jobs that I was so perfect for but didn't get.

And as I'm fighting the self-pity and regret that comes with these thoughts, a song starts playing. It goes something like this:

"King of glory, I know you love me
So I will trust you
Yes I will trust you
God almighty, you have saved me
So I will trust you
Yes I will trust in you."

But the bridge was the kicker:

"How can I not trust my King?
The one who has formed me and shaped me
I will rejoice and will sing
For the one who has made me has saved me."

God has a plan for my life, and it's GOOD! He formed me and shaped me; He gave me these talents and abilities, and He has a plan to use them for HIS glory, but it's for MY good too! How can I not trust someone who holds the universe in the palm of His hand, yet chose to suffer and die to save a wretch like me? My God is infinitely powerful, all-knowing and wise, yet infinitely good, kind and merciful. Praise be to God!

*Song quotes are taken from "So I Will Trust You", from the album "Come Weary Saints" by Sovereign Grace Ministries

Sunday, January 4, 2009

our New Year's in numbers...

In the past 4 days...

I have spent 2 3/4 days in bed.
Adrian has acquired 2,343 points in Wii Boxing.
I sustained a 102 degree fever for 2 days.
Adrian bowled a 258 on the Wii.
Shrek the Third has been watched 6 times.
We have gone through 2 thermometers
. . . 1/2 bottle of Advil
. . . and 1 whole bottle of rubbing alcohol.
Four different movies have been watched, 2 of them at least twice.
I have showered once.

BUT, I'm finally on the mend (thank you God for modern medicine!), and our life is getting back to normal. My New Year's Resolution? To stop being sick. Seriously. That's enough, germs.

In all seriousness, though, every time I get knock-you-off-your-feet sick, it seems I learn something. . . or, often, a few somethings. So, here are this week's strep lessons:

1) Taking care of sick people does not come naturally to everyone. And that's OKAY.

Some of you may not be as surprised at this revelation as I was. But taking care of the helpless, be they sick, young, or old, comes so naturally to me that I can't keep myself from doing it, even when I try (which is probably what landed me in this sickbed in the first place). So it was quite a shock to discover that my husband HATES this job. I thought his complaining at having to go buy me Gatorade meant that he didn't care for me; what I should have realized was that the fact that he went at all means that he loves me more than anyone else. Now if I can just remember that the next time I'm sick. . .

2) It's easy to find your identity (joy, peace, whatever you want to call it) in getting everything done, no matter how long (or short) your to-do list and how much (or little) time you have.

Being sick forces you to slow down, or, in my case these past few days, to stop. And, when I got up on Saturday, the house was a wreck, we didn't have any food, all our clothes and dishes were dirty, phone calls un-returned, and bills unpaid. And . . . life went on. We were happy. We found something to eat. The sky didn't fall. Adrian didn't hate me. God didn't hate me. For 3 days, I wasn't trying to be perfect, and it took those 3 days for me to realize that I had been trying all along. Can somebody say legalisim?

3) Beware the gas company! They will take all your money if you let them.

So, this has nothing to do with me being sick or Adrian playing the Wii until his arms fall off. This has everything to do with the fact that there's only 1 gas company here in town, which lets them do ridiculous things like charge us a fee for the pleasure of being their customer AND a delivery fee for the pleasure of receiving their gas. . . which is part of being their customer? They also charge different rates for the first 20 units, the next 30 units, and all the units after that, with the first 2 categories being 3 to 5 times higher than the last one, of course. . . because it cost them more money to deliver the first 20 units, right?

Anyway, suffice it to say that there has been a lot of lying in bed, movie watching, Wii playing, and lesson learning in our household lately. Happy New Year everyone!